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About 2016

Nothing is possible until someone imagines it and believes it is possible.

Some people, when imagining the coming New Year,
especially if they have been listening to the news and pundits, may be
imagining a 2016 with more anxiety and worry than ever before. Imagining all
the things that they don’t want to have happen but believe will, whether on a
global, national or personal level.

When we are imagining a future that we don’t want
we are feeling that fear and anxiety right now, even though what we fear has
not yet happened. When we hear topics like the climate, the economy or race
relations, we prepare ourselves for the worst, keeping ourselves in a constant
state of stress. We are in survival mode where fight or flight seems to
be our only option which blinds us from seeing alternative possibilities that
are more preferable. As a result, decisions we make are not about moving toward
a future we want but away from a future we are afraid of.

And Being afraid of our future is the worst of

You can’t run from a future you are afraid of and
fighting it is futile.

How do we get out of the trap?

The key is to spend more time imagining a personal
future that you want to live and believe is possible and less time imagining a
future you fear.

The hope and excitement of what that experience can
be opens the door to creativity, new ideas and many more options to making
things better. You are at your best when you are moving toward things you
prefer. You tend to enjoy the process as much as the accomplishment. This is
living. This is thriving.

Just imagining it makes it more possible.

Most of us are not trained or practiced in
imagining a future we want. We have been told to prepare for the worst and hope
for the best, but the preparation for the worst strengthens our belief that it
will happen. Our belief is often stronger that things will go wrong than
that things will go right. This may be the reason why new year’s resolutions
don’t last past February. Wanting to get in shape, quit smoking or find a
better job has our focus more on what we don’t want, what we believe is wrong
with ourselves or life that needs to be fixed. We get worn out.

Worrying about something has never protected
anyone, it has only had their experience be uncomfortable. This focus on
believing in the worst is a habit that can be shifted.

Here are some things you can do to get back into
practice of looking towards a future that you prefer.

Make a list of
what you want your future to be like.

Be mindful of what
beliefs you have around what you want by the level of excitement you have for
what is on your list.

Focus on the items
that you feel the most excited about and start to imagine, just for fun, how
things will be in that future. How will it feel, what would you be doing. Do
this for at least 5 minutes.

Practice believing
it is possible, even if you don’t know how to make it happen.

You have now just spent 5 minutes not worrying or
being afraid of your future and instead feeling good about it. Both are valid
ways of imagining and nothing is possible until someone imagines it. What do
you want to be possible?

After you have experienced being excited about your
future, imagine what the world would be like if everyone was excited about
their future.

Now, keep imagining it and start believing it is

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Single Parent Families can be strong and lead healthy families.

Greatly desiring to see thee being mindful of thy tears that I may be filled with joy. 2 Timothy 1:4

Greatly desiring to see thee of being mindful of thy tears that I may be filled with joy. 2 Timothy 1:4

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epost from Mortgageloan.com

One of our readers and fellow single parents wrote in and told of this GREAT article regarding home ownership and single parent families that was published by mortgageloan.com. We wanted to repost this at her request because it might just help someone - and after all, that is what we are ALL about - helping single parent families do better. Please let us know if this helps you!
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Enjoying ALL the Love Around Us, and IN Us All

Each year Valentine’s Day comes on the heels of Christmas and New Year’s Day. Typically, by the time you catch your breath and sort of recover from the “holidaze” it is time to gather cards, flowers, chocolate, and schedule quality time with those we hold dear to make them understand how much we care. The flip side of that is that we need to prepare to BE loved as well.

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This article was sent in by one of our readers, Marilyn, as a good guide for those interested in dating again. As single parents, our first love is always our kids with our time and attention, but many consider this, so we are reposting it as it originally came from datehookup.com.
Thank you Marilyn!

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